How To Regulate Your Emotions So They Don’t Regulate You

How To Regulate Your Emotions So They Don’t Regulate You

  Introduction Emotional self-regulation or emotion regulation is the ability to respond to emotionally intense situations in a manner that is socially acceptable, yet, still remain flexible enough to be spontaneous in your reactions and maintain the ability to delay spontaneous reactions when needed. As adults, we must all learn to regulate our emotions, especially…

How To Speak Up With Intention

How To Speak Up With Intention

Introduction Have any of you ever, for one reason or another, been afraid to speak up and say what is on your mind, to give someone your opinion or thoughts about a certain subject? Are you afraid of the consequences of speaking up? In this post, I will explain ways to speak up even if…

How To Set Your Intentions For Good

How To Set Your Intentions For Good

  Prologue In addressing the subject of intentions, I have found it to be rather nebulous and imprecise, but there are several important aspects of it that I feel need to be addressed in regards to communication.   What is an intention? An intention is an idea that you plan (or intend) to carry out….

Who Do Your Words Say You Are?

Who Do Your Words Say You Are?

Robin Back On Assignment Remember Robin from Part 1 and Part 2? She was given the assignment to evaluate an individual’s communication. In Part 2 she was People Watching at the Ferry Building Marketplace where she observed a couple having an intense argument. After the woman threw the phone down and stomped off, the guy…

What Is Your Body Language Saying?

What Is Your Body Language Saying?

Elements of Communications In the scientific paper “Body Language Classification and Communicative Context” by Jianxue Yin,  the elements of communication are grouped for better understanding of how they work together and separately. They are divided into three groups, Verbal, Posture – nonverbal and body language, and Social. In my last post, we looked at verbal…

What Is Your Voice Saying About You?

What Is Your Voice Saying About You?

Rate Your Distraction Level   We’re surrounded by distractions, especially our phones.  Are you paying attention to the conversations you are having or are you distracted by your phone and social media? What are your vocal elements telling others? In communications, personal or otherwise, consider your voice. Your vocal elements can help you be engaging…

Are Your Conversations A Win-Win?

Are Your Conversations A Win-Win?

Jerry Just Wanted Things His Way Jerry discovered that Debbie, the step-mother of his girlfriend Connie, was a Life Coach. He and Connie had been having problems lately. He wanted to take their relationship to the next level – move in together. Connie wasn’t so sure. They had been seeing each other for about six…

Do You Know How To Say NO?

Do You Know How To Say NO?

Great journeys begin with one small step.  In the journey of life, learning to say “No” is that small, but necessary step. Burt was the kind of guy that everybody liked. You could count on him to be the life of any party. He never met a stranger or if he did they weren’t strangers…

Words Change Your Brain for Better or Worse

Words Change Your Brain for Better or Worse

 “Words are a reflection of our thoughts. Positive words come from positive thoughts, negative words from negative thoughts. It is really that simple.” Regulating Physical and Emotional Stress In the book, “Words Can Change Your Brain,” by Dr. Andrew Newberg, a neuroscientist at Thomas Jefferson University, and Mark Robert Waldman, a communications expert, explain how…

Sticks and Stones May Break Your Bones…

Sticks and Stones May Break Your Bones…

Sticks and stone can leave broken bones and bruised bodies, but verbal abuse can have devastating effects that can last for years. How To Create Your World With Words   A Normal Pre-Teen Girl Kathy’s mother frequently told her that she was no good. She’d never amount to anything. She was a disappointment to the…