Don’t Be Like Sam

Don’t Be Like Sam

“There is an unreported epidemic of negative self-talk in our culture today.” – Cynthia Kane Introduction  According to Joseph J. Luciani Ph.D., worry is the incessant, ruminative speculation of what might go wrong—anticipation of chaos. Worry predicts that something will happen or go wrong (loss of control).  Worry gives the illusion of control for a…

Talking Down About Yourself

Talking Down About Yourself

“It’s not attractive to be talking down about yourself all the time. All you continue to do to yourself is pull yourself further down into a deeper place of depression and sadness and insecurity and fear and hopelessness, so it’s like, having God in your life is important, accepting who you are is important, regardless…

Are Your Goals Empty?

Are Your Goals Empty?

“Our souls are hungry for meaning, for the sense that we have figured out how to live so that our lives matter…What frustrates us and robs our lives of joy is this absence of meaning… Does our being alive matter?” – Harold S. Kushner   Introduction  Some say that the only highway in life that…

Happiness or Fulfillment?

Happiness or Fulfillment?

“Occasionally in life, there are those moments of unutterable fulfillment which cannot be completely explained by those symbols called words. Their meanings can only be articulated by the inaudible language of the heart.” Martin Luther King Jr Introduction  Many people say, “I just want to be happy.” But, is that what you really want? Think…

Say Something Positive

Say Something Positive

“The critical inner voice refers to a well-integrated pattern of destructive thoughts toward our selves and others…” – Dr. Lisa Firestone  Introduction It’s interesting how you come to accept a view of yourself that says, “I’m not ok,” or “I’m not good enough.” You grow up accepting this distorted view as normal, “that’s just the…

Everything Is A Choice

Everything Is A Choice

We Will Change Our Feelings, Our Beliefs, Our Life, etc., When We Make The Choice To Do So Introduction  Remember the old saying by Ben Franklin, “A man convinced against his will, is of the same opinion still.” Most people are stubborn and resist change, especially, if someone else is trying to get them to…

Temporary Fix Or Real Change?

Temporary Fix Or Real Change?

“You find peace not by rearranging the circumstances of your life, but by realizing who you are at the deepest level.” —Eckhart Tolle   Introduction  We have all been taught that negative emotions or feelings such as stress, worry, fear, despair, feelings of abandonment, feeling overwhelmed, helpless, etc. are bad. But are they? Do they…

Take The Challenge

Take The Challenge

“Letting go means to come to the realization that some people are a part of your history, but not a part of your destiny.” ― Steve Maraboli In my last post, I asked the questions, “Are you just paying for a high priced listener?” Therapists are very passive, reflective, and patient. Where as self-coaching is active,…

Who’s Your Listener?

Who’s Your Listener?

“Who you are, what you are, and where your life is going are all choices” Introduction  In my previous posts, I’ve talked about change, how to change for success. Many including, myself, have thought that counseling or psychotherapy is the answer. Yes, it helps to have someone to talk to, but too many times, people…

We Feel What We Believe

We Feel What We Believe

“Destiny is not a matter of chance, it is a matter of choice; It is not a thing to be waited for, it is a thing to be achieved. —William Jennings Bryan” Introduction  In my last post “I Confess” I stated that your core beliefs dictate your expectations. Your core beliefs also dictate your feelings….