Finding Gold In Your Shadow Side

Finding Gold In Your Shadow Side

The ‘shadow’ is the side of your personality that contains all the parts of yourself that you don’t want to admit to having. Dark World Jeremy thought about his discussion with his counselor while sitting on the bench in the school courtyard. She had brought a little light into his seemingly very dark shadow world….

Say Something Positive

Say Something Positive

“The critical inner voice refers to a well-integrated pattern of destructive thoughts toward our selves and others…” – Dr. Lisa Firestone  Introduction It’s interesting how you come to accept a view of yourself that says, “I’m not ok,” or “I’m not good enough.” You grow up accepting this distorted view as normal, “that’s just the…

Take The Challenge

Take The Challenge

“Letting go means to come to the realization that some people are a part of your history, but not a part of your destiny.” ― Steve Maraboli In my last post, I asked the questions, “Are you just paying for a high priced listener?” Therapists are very passive, reflective, and patient. Where as self-coaching is active,…

Who’s Your Listener?

Who’s Your Listener?

“Who you are, what you are, and where your life is going are all choices” Introduction  In my previous posts, I’ve talked about change, how to change for success. Many including, myself, have thought that counseling or psychotherapy is the answer. Yes, it helps to have someone to talk to, but too many times, people…

We Feel What We Believe

We Feel What We Believe

“Destiny is not a matter of chance, it is a matter of choice; It is not a thing to be waited for, it is a thing to be achieved. —William Jennings Bryan” Introduction  In my last post “I Confess” I stated that your core beliefs dictate your expectations. Your core beliefs also dictate your feelings….

My Confession

My Confession

  Photo by Ivan Obolensky from Pexels “The quality of your life is the direct result of the quality of your beliefs” Introduction  Your core beliefs dictate your expectations. They are what you think is true about yourself and the world around you. God created you with a design in mind. Your experiences may have…

Are You Stumbling In The Dark

Are You Stumbling In The Dark

“Allowing yourself to see the good in the world almost magically creates clear spaces where you can begin to grow again!” – Joshua Moore Introduction  If you’ve been reading my posts, you will remember that I’m always saying, “Do the Opposite.” If you find yourself in a position where things seem to be going wrong…

Too Low, Too High, or Just Right?

Too Low, Too High, or Just Right?

Self-esteem is shaped by your thoughts, relationships and experiences. Understand the range of self-esteem and the benefits of having a healthy opinion of yourself.” – Mayo Clinic Introduction  Self-esteem is your overall opinion of yourself. I’m sure you’ve heard the terms “self-image,” “self-perception,” “self-concept”. They all refer to how you feel about yourself, how you…

Who? Me Worry? No, Not Me, Am I

Who? Me Worry? No, Not Me, Am I

“Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, it only saps today of its joy.” – Leo F. Buscaglia Introduction  We all worry from time to time. We experience a general feeling of nervousness or anxiety, a sense that something might be wrong or could go wrong, disturbing thoughts – worry. Statistics show that almost 2…

Planting Your New Mindset

Planting Your New Mindset

You’ve been ridding your garden plot of weeds and garbage. Have you started planting yet? Introduction  In the last post Harvey started looking at his negative core beliefs and how to change them into a postive ‘mindset.’ The roots of  negative core beliefs go very deep into the soil. If we don’t pull get all…