Externalizing Blame to Cover Up Shame
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Externalizing Blame to Cover Up Shame

Rita Plays the Blame Game In my previous post, Rita was going to spend Christmas with her brother and sister-in-law until her emotions exploded at the preacher on their TV. Dennis and Gracie left to allow Rita some time to settle down so they could discuss things calmly without playing the blame game. While they…

How To Understand And Disarm Explosive Emotions
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How To Understand And Disarm Explosive Emotions

Explosive Emotions, an ADHD Wild Card Explosive Emotions are a very challenging aspect of ADHD because Doctors have found dysregulated emotions difficult to test and diagnose because they occur so randomly. According to Attention Magazine, it has been determined that the memory loss that accompanies ADHD often enables stronger than normal emotional outbursts. It appears…

5 Tips For Improving Your Listening Skills
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5 Tips For Improving Your Listening Skills

How ADHD Affects A Person’s Ability To Listen Listening legend Dr. Ralph G. Nichols famously said, “The most basic of all human needs is the need to understand and be understood. The best way to understand people is to listen to them.” Unfortunately, people in general do not listen effectively. Listening in Business Statistics show that the…

How Emotional Hyperarousal Causes People With ADHD Major Problems
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How Emotional Hyperarousal Causes People With ADHD Major Problems

5 Ways to help people with ADHD reign in their runaway emotions  Emotional hyperarousal is one of the characteristics common in ADHD. Unfortunately, it is often overlooked in diagnosis because it does not present with hyperactivity. In children and adults, it is often misdiagnosed as a mood disorder, as in Dennis’s case.     Dennis and Gracie…

How to Manipulate a Conversation by Not Listening
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How to Manipulate a Conversation by Not Listening

Are you hearing instead of really listening Hearing vs. Listening Many people, men more than women, but women too, don’t listen to what’s being said. They might be able to tell you the words that were said for a few seconds, maybe a couple of minutes, but they definitely couldn’t tell you the meaning. I…

3 Steps to Begin Renewing Your Mind for Better Communications 

3 Steps to Begin Renewing Your Mind for Better Communications 

Ways to slow down the ADHD Fast Brain for better personal interaction  People, in general, think faster than they talk. For all of us, it’s hard to listen, especially if the speaker is a little slower than average in finishing what he has to say. ADHD adults have even more difficulty being patient while others…

How You Can Help ADHD Adults Improve Their Ability To Listen 

How You Can Help ADHD Adults Improve Their Ability To Listen 

3 active listening exercises and techniques to develop better communication Does it seem like the ADHD adults in your life are always on the phone or focused somewhere else when you try to talk to them? It’s very difficult to have a meaningful conversation when you get silence in return. Active Listening Good communication is…

6 Breakthrough Tips to Improve Toxic Communications
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6 Breakthrough Tips to Improve Toxic Communications

Avoid injured feelings and devastating conflicts Conversations can go from a peaceful discussion to a hurtful argument in seconds when one partner has ADHD. ADHDers often find it difficult to keep their emotions in check and under control during intense interactions. Anger, resentment, and arguing are common when ADHD is present. Both the ADHDer and…

Dealing With The Silent Temper Tantrum

Dealing With The Silent Temper Tantrum

“Few realize how loud their expressions really are. Be kind with what you wordlessly say.” ― Richelle E. Goodrich, Making Wishes The Silent Treatment Franklin was a special kind of guy. He did have a good heart until he didn’t. If he got into one of his moods, watch out, the silence was deafening. I can…

Do You Need To Be Right

Do You Need To Be Right

“Do you want to be right or happy?” – Dr. Phil Introduction  Some people seem to have the need to be right or at least convince others that their views are ‘right’ and the other person is wrong. If you enter into a discussion with them it quickly turns to a debate or an argument….