What Is Your Body Language Saying?

What Is Your Body Language Saying?

Elements of Communications In the scientific paper “Body Language Classification and Communicative Context” by Jianxue Yin,  the elements of communication are grouped for better understanding of how they work together and separately. They are divided into three groups, Verbal, Posture – nonverbal and body language, and Social. In my last post, we looked at verbal…

What Is Your Voice Saying About You?

What Is Your Voice Saying About You?

Rate Your Distraction Level   We’re surrounded by distractions, especially our phones.  Are you paying attention to the conversations you are having or are you distracted by your phone and social media? What are your vocal elements telling others? In communications, personal or otherwise, consider your voice. Your vocal elements can help you be engaging…

Are Your Conversations A Win-Win?

Are Your Conversations A Win-Win?

Jerry Just Wanted Things His Way Jerry discovered that Debbie, the step-mother of his girlfriend Connie, was a Life Coach. He and Connie had been having problems lately. He wanted to take their relationship to the next level – move in together. Connie wasn’t so sure. They had been seeing each other for about six…

How Empathy Comes To the Rescue

How Empathy Comes To the Rescue

Developing empathy and becoming an Empathic Listener is learning to act, be, and care about others, as well as, learning to control and understand our own emotions. “Mark, would you please take me to the office to get my car?” Diane asked a second time. Mark grabbed his jacket and stormed out, slamming the front…

How Not To Be the Listener Who Fakes It

How Not To Be the Listener Who Fakes It

The manner in which you stand, listen, gaze and move, tells the person you are communicating with how attentive you are, if you are being honest, and if you care or not. –  Anthony Madani  Talking Non-Stop Amy and Diane, from the story in Most Of Us, Don’t Know How To Listen, went to lunch…

How to Hear What People Are Really Saying!!

How to Hear What People Are Really Saying!!

“To be a great listener requires patience, focus, awareness, and most of all it requires us to set aside our own agenda.” – Matthew Kelly, The Culture Solution Not Listening Ted, from the motor pool at work, gave me a ride home. You, reading this story, remember my car accident from the previous stories, right?…

How To Help Without Helping

How To Help Without Helping

“Not everyone with a problem needs you to solve it. Sometimes all a person needs is to feel like they’ve been heard. Listening without judging can be more effective than injecting your opinions or trying to solve a problem that doesn’t have an easy answer.”  ― Zero Dean, Lessons Learned from The Path Less Traveled Volume 1…

Do You Know How To Listen?

Do You Know How To Listen?

“Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” – Steven Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People Worst Day Possible My day was one of the worst I had ever had. It seemed like I was cursed or something. My car was sideswiped on the…

Do You Know How To Say NO?

Do You Know How To Say NO?

Great journeys begin with one small step.  In the journey of life, learning to say “No” is that small, but necessary step. Burt was the kind of guy that everybody liked. You could count on him to be the life of any party. He never met a stranger or if he did they weren’t strangers…

Hey Are You Listening To Me

Hey Are You Listening To Me

“Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.”  ― Stephen R. Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful  “I need you to talk to Mary for me,” Jeff said. “She’s not listening to me. I need you to explain my ADHD to her. She just doesn’t…