Listening legend Dr. Ralph G. Nichols stated,“The most basic of all human needs is the need to understand and be understood. The best way to understand people is to listen to them.” Listening in Business Unfortunately, people in general do not listen effectively. Statistics show that the lack of listening skills is a major problem in…
People, in general, think faster than they talk. For all of us, it’s hard to listen, especially if the speaker is slower in finishing his thought. The ADHD Adult Fast Brain runs even faster creating even more communication problems. They often get sidetracked in their own thoughts or get very impatient with the speaker. This…
It has been determined that ADHD is not a lack of or deficiency in attention. It is a problem with the ability to regulate attention and activity. Those with ADHD struggle with how and when to switch on and off their focus. Experts have said the executive function is like the train conductor of the…
Does it seem like the ADHD adults in your life are always on the phone or focused somewhere else when you try to talk to them? It’s very difficult to have a meaningful conversation when you get silence in return. Active Listening Good communication is essential in every area of our lives. Speaking and writing…
Conversations can go from a peaceful discussion to a hurtful argument in seconds when one partner has ADHD. ADHDers often find it difficult to keep their emotions in check and under control during intense interactions. Anger, resentment, and arguing are common when ADHD is present. Both the ADHDer and their partner must take steps to…
In my last post, “What does ADHD have to do with Anger,” Gracie thought she and Dennis had finally turned a corner in being able to communicate effectively until Rejection Sensitivity showed up. Dennis finally revealed that he had been diagnosed with ADHD. Even though they were neighbors and friends during childhood, Dennis had never…
Defensiveness is reactive, similar to the defensive plays in football, where the defense reacts to the actions of the offense In relationships, defensiveness can be both a feeling and behavior. Typically, a defensive feeling is triggered by criticism, put-downs, shaming, intense sadness, or anger. As a result of the feeling, you exhibit behaviors such as being…
How to take your thoughts captive Photo by Laura Tancredi from Pexels Body Shaming Gracie sat in a corner booth of a fast-food restaurant. In the booth next to her, she could hear two young women talking. One said, “I have to lose weight. At size 12 I’m never going to get a date. Look…
Your Thoughts Become Your Words Which Become Your Behavior “How can my words be used to create my future? How are word seeds planted?” Gracie said. “I just don’t get it.” Gracie, a woman in her mid-40s, had heard her pastor say the above in one of his sermons. She just couldn’t shake the thought…
Your Future Can Be Told By The Words You Say Have you heard the term “sour grapes”? A person’s behavior, expression, or opinion can be termed “sour grapes” when the person is angry because they haven’t or aren’t getting what they want when they want it. Matilda had often been referred to as sour grapes…
