Hearing vs. Listening Many people, men more than women, but women too, are not listening to what’s being said. They might be able to tell you the words that were said for a few seconds, maybe a couple of minutes, but they definitely couldn’t tell you the meaning. I know one woman who got tired…
“You have two choices: to control your mind or to let your mind control you.” – Paulo Coelho Jenny’s Emotions Jenny, a junior attorney in a large law firm in Western Tennessee, recently discovered how to be her best friend instead of her worst enemy by using mind control to not allow the negative thoughts…
Some people believe that hanging in there are signs of great strength. Many times it takes much more strength to know when to let go. “You can’t reach for anything new if your hands are still full of yesterday’s junk” – Louise Smith. Jerry Returns Jerry, in last week’s story, had gone to see Darlene,…
In my post, Do You Play Defense in Your Conversations, Dennis was very easily offended, but wouldn’t talk to Gracie about why. They found an article about how to resolve conflict according to God’s Word. “Whoever is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit than he who takes a…
Explosive Emotions are a very challenging aspect of ADHD. Doctors have found dysregulated emotions difficult to test and diagnose because they occur randomly. According to Attention Magazine, it has been determined that the memory loss that accompanies ADHD often enables stronger than normal emotional outbursts. The brain networks carrying and transferring emotional information are limited…
All of us, at one time or another, use blame as a defense mechanism to protect ourselves from having to take responsibility for our actions. Unfortunately, ADHDers seem to use blame more often than others because of their ADHD characteristics such as procrastination, forgetfulness, time blindness, impulsivity, and thinking they are always right. For example: A…
The Nightly News, the local newspapers, especially, social media have an abundance of opinions floating through the airwaves. I imagine the majority of us, at one time or another, have shared a video or meme on social media then realized later that it was just someone’s opinion or the information was altered to reflect a…
Great journeys begin with one small step. In the journey of life, learning to say “No” is that small, but necessary step. Burt was the kind of guy that everybody liked. You could count on him to be the life of any party. He never met a stranger or if he did they weren’t strangers…
Defensiveness is reactive, similar to the defensive plays in football, where the defense reacts to the actions of the offense In relationships, defensiveness can be both a feeling and behavior. Typically, a defensive feeling is triggered by criticism, put-downs, shaming, intense sadness, or anger. As a result of the feeling, you exhibit behaviors such as being…
“You have power over your mind – not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.” – Marcus Aurelius A Mind Becomes Seriously Cluttered This story is true. The names have been changed. I’m telling this story to illustrate an extreme example of mind cluttering. A Childhood Prank Jimmy, at age 10 or 11,…
