Does Your “No” Mean “No”

Does Your “No” Mean “No”

Do you agree to things because you feel pressured? It was almost midnight. She was fading quickly, but he just kept talking doling out orders for the next day. Nancy knew he was a “night-owl” but she wasn’t. She needed her sleep. After 15 years of marriage, she thought that he would lighten up, but…

How You Can Be Truly Happy

How You Can Be Truly Happy

Susie wanted to go out Friday night and relax. She’d been working overtime getting just a few hours of sleep per night. Between her job and trying to start her own business on the side, she was exhausted. She called several friends who she used to go out with on a regular basis. Everyone said…

How To Get What You Want

How To Get What You Want

The drive seemed to take forever. His hands were still handcuffed behind him. His shoulders hurt. He tried to say something, but the Plexiglas partition between the seats didn’t permit any communication. Absolutely no leg room! The seat itself was a hard plastic shelf. The officers didn’t buckle his seat belt so every time they…

What Can You Do For Me

What Can You Do For Me

Walter knew his keyboard skills were far superior to anyone he’d ever heard. Going back to that little “Podunk Town” was not an option. The hillbillies in that town didn’t even bother to give him a proper send-off. He’d show them. Grandiose Sense of Self-Importance He didn’t want to listen to Dad’s lecture, so he…

Who Are You To Talk To Me

Who Are You To Talk To Me

Walter, a great young keyboardist, was lots of fun but had to do things his own way. He was always right. He gave up two great jobs, playing in a local restaurant and worship leader at church, to make it big in Music City. People loved to hear him play and sing. But, sometimes in…

I Have to Stop Feeling I Have To Be Perfect

I Have to Stop Feeling I Have To Be Perfect

A new employee, Alice, was to start today, so many had come through my department lately, I didn’t want another person to train. But I had no say-so in it. The people in HR did the hiring. The new hires just couldn’t do the work, though. There were always errors. I took a deep breath…

Being Rich Will Really Make Me Happy

Being Rich Will Really Make Me Happy

Rich Dad Benny’s rich dad paid his court-ordered child support and a round-trip ticket for Benny’s yearly visit. “What does everybody expect? I do have three kids and I have more than a full-time job,” dad used to say about his role in his kid’s lives. Benny often thought about his dad’s statement. Yes, the…

Negative Self-Worth Defeats Your Success

Negative Self-Worth Defeats Your Success

Anna’s Story Anna always dreamed of being a teacher and a great mother to her children, like her mother. She had always been a little on the chubby side, but her mother gave her lots of love and support and encouragement. Anna was encouraged to eat healthy and exercise. Mother always told her that as…

My Bucket’s Full-Time to Empty It

My Bucket’s Full-Time to Empty It

People Pleaser Prison As I became more aware of myself and who I am, I realized I have been a people pleaser much of my life. During childhood, my dad controlled everything my mother and I did with his silence. If he didn’t approve he would not speak for days. I got married the first…

How to Escape People-Pleaser Prison

How to Escape People-Pleaser Prison

Find the Keys Having love, recognition, and approval from friends, family, co-workers, and peers is very important to me. If I don’t please others they may choose to reject, criticize, or abandon me – People-Pleaser. If you fear rejection or disapproval – or you feel guilty for saying no – or feel a lack of recognition…