Avoid injured feelings and devastating conflicts Conversations can go from a peaceful discussion to a hurtful argument in seconds when one partner has ADHD. ADHDers often find it difficult to keep their emotions in check and under control during intense interactions. Anger, resentment, and arguing are common when ADHD is present. Both the ADHDer and…
Rejection Sensitivity In my last post, “What does ADHD have to do with Anger,” Gracie thought she and Dennis had finally turned a corner in being able to communicate effectively. Dennis finally revealed that he had been diagnosed with ADHD. Even though they were neighbors and friends during childhood, Dennis had never revealed this to…
“Whoever is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city.” — Proverbs 16:32 ESV In my last post, Do You Play Defense, Dennis was very easily offended, but wouldn’t talk to Gracie about why. They found an article about how to resolve conflict according…
Defensiveness is reactive, similar to the defensive plays in football, where the defense reacts to the actions of the offense In relationships, defensiveness can be both a feeling and behavior. Typically, a defensive feeling is triggered by criticism, put-downs, shaming, intense sadness, or anger. As a result of the feeling, you exhibit behaviors such as being…
How to take your thoughts captive Photo by Laura Tancredi from Pexels Body Shaming Gracie sat in a corner booth of a fast-food restaurant. In the booth next to her, she could hear two young women talking. One said, “I have to lose weight. At size 12 I’m never going to get a date. Look…
Your Thoughts Become Your Words Which Become Your Behavior “How can my words be used to create my future? How are word seeds planted?” Gracie said. “I just don’t get it.” Gracie, a woman in her mid-40s, had heard her pastor say the above in one of his sermons. She just couldn’t shake the thought…
Your Future Can Be Told By The Words You Say Have you heard the term “sour grapes”? A person’s behavior, expression, or opinion can be termed “sour grapes” when the person is angry because they haven’t or aren’t getting what they want when they want it. Matilda had often been referred to as sour grapes…
In my last article, ‘How Does Real Faith Compare to Mental Assent,” some wondered if I was espousing the doctrine that has been labeled “name it and claim it,” or “blab it and grab it” or “Prosperity Gospel.” The answer is “absolutely no.” We could all argue points and principles for different denominations and doctrines,…
Most Christians affirm that the Bible is God’s Word and that it is the truth. Unfortunately, though, many times when Christians experience a crisis or become sick they say, “Yes, I believe the Bible is the Word of God, and it is true, but it doesn’t work for me.” Often times they quote scripture, for…
And What Some Think and Teach We read stories in the Bible about people being healed and wonder if divine healing is still available today. Some teach that it was only for Bible times. Others teach that it’s not always God’s will to heal. So, it may not be God’s will to heal me….
